Look into your children’s eyes and see what they are feeling. Looking into your children’s eyes can give you clues as to what may be going on inside their little hearts. When they look at you do you see joy in their eyes? Do you see sadness? Do you see confusion or fear? Their eyes are the windows to their soles.

Try changing the way that you act around them and see how their eyes reflect the difference. Take a moment to sit and listen to them and see the change in how they look at you. Hold them in your arms and let them know that they are the most important thing in the world to you and watch the change begin to take effect.

Being a positive influence in your children’s lives goes so far beyond just picking them up once in a while and doing something fun with them. If you want a strong and secure relationship with them then you have to build a solid foundation and continue to add to it. Making sure that you are available to them is important for them and shows them that they can turn to you when they need you. Being available to them is the first step in building that foundation.

I can not stress enough how important it is for you to make yourself available for doctors visits, dentist visits, parent/teacher conferences, school plays, you name it. Your children will come to know you as more than a part time parent and you will be setting a good example for them by splitting duties and or participating in these activities with mom…it is important for them to see that you both can come together when it comes to their well being. This also relieves some of the pressure that mom may be feeling, making the atmosphere around mom more relaxed. This gives her an opportunity to take care of herself and her needs making her a better person for the children.

Remember that it is the responsibility of both parents to ensure that they are the best that they can be for the good of the children.

Look into their eyes and see what they may need. Adjust your availability, emotionally and physically and see the change in the way that they behold you and watch your relationship blossom into an unbreakable bond.

Be strong, be loyal and be positive.

Doug